I am continually amazed as I look around to a world that has been taken in by Satan’s lies. They’re everywhere you look: in music, in movies, in your churches, in your homes, and in your mind. He is delightfully feeding you those scrumptious lies and guess what? you love it.
These lies are disguised as things we desire: fulfillment and satisfaction. They come in all shapes and sizes and feel good upon reaching our mental lips as we devour them hungrily, feasting on those lies rather than glorying in truth, or even holding them against truth to see if they be truth or lies. You with me?
So in this light, I am faced with a nagging feeling that I need to address the subject of love: what is it and what does it look like? (A side note is that I am single, therefore I may have a slightly off-balanced view of this subject; however, I do feel the Scriptures weigh nicely against the worldly view of so-called “love”.)
When I searched the definition of the word, it gave me a verb and a noun and I was appalled at the verb’s depiction of it for me: feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone). SAY WHAT?! Wait, this is not the definition of love I feel when my parents say they love me; nor is it what I feel when God says it to me. Why has the world seemingly taken this word and distorted it?
Satan is clever; he knows God’s heart and wants God’s will to be destroyed. And since God’s foundation for human beings – He is the standard of the word – is love, Satan has set out to destroy it and anything pertaining to it. How has he done this? By making the word LOVE to mean I feel something deep inside me for you that I want to have sex with you.
Whoa, whoa, whoa – did I just say that? Is that a real thing? Surely I can’t mean that.
But I do. And if you’ve ever listened to a song on a secular radio station, then you know what I’m talking about. Country, pop, rock, rap… you name it. They may be called “love songs”, but I can assure you the definition of love in these lyrics is not a biblical understanding of the word. Let’s look at some examples of what I’m talking about; I’m not making this stuff up, y’all.
⊗ I’m in love with the shape of you
We push and pull like a magnet do
Although my heart is falling too
I’m in love with your body
⊗ You’re so damn fine, and you’re on my mind
And I’m gon’ lose it
When you look at me, look at me with those big pretty blue eyes
Love on me, love on me, in the middle of a long night
I can’t help but tell myself, oh you boy you got it so good with this good looking girl
⊗ If your gonna hold me, hold me like I’m leaving
If your gonna kiss me, kiss me like you need it
Baby if your not your best get to leavin’
If your gonna love me, love me like you mean it
Lust, lust, lust. That’s what “love”is these days. Love these days seeks to take advantage of someone else; seeks for one’s own pleasure in that moment. It feels good, is impulsive, and often leaves the party on the other end feeling neglected and alone, in fact, emptier for having filled themselves on that type of love.
If you’ve come from a conservative background such as I have, you may only be just now getting exposure to this. And if your parents know the true meaning of love, they’ve given you a good understanding that love is not sexual relation. “Love is not a feeling, but a decision”, my parents’ voices echo in my head. “It’s a decision we have to make every day.”
God did not possess a gushy, sexual feeling for you when He placed His Son on that cross to die in your place. What a disgusting picture that gives me! Just stop and ponder that for a moment and put God in that position just to grasp what that means. It’s gross! No, God was not moved by emotion, but by good will, which is a fruit of love. If you truly love someone, you want what’s best for them; you want them to be happy, and see their true worth. Like when your parents would discipline you for a wrong doing, they did it for your own good. We call that “tough love”: it seeks what’s best for that person in that moment, and does it. Real love doesn’t let faults slide, which is what most parents today do with their children: they think “loving” their child is letting them have anything and everything they want, and in turn, we have a country full of children growing up thinking everyone owes them and, if they do not get what they want, they turn to drugs, alcohol, murder, rape, and even suicide because someone didn’t really love them and there’s a gap left in their life. Do the math; you know it’s true.
Can you imagine if God’s definition of love was the same as ours? Imagine we set the standard to love and God went on our whims: us girls would likely have been married at 14 to that guy who we thought was “so amazing” and be miserable right now, if we were even still married. We’d likely be a single parent, trying to figure out what happened, raising 3 kids and cursing “that bum” who’s now rotting in jail. Everything would be based on feelings and whims, and there’d be no logical solution to anything because “love is getting what you want”, right?
The biggest concern I have in this thinking is not necessarily that the world has distorted it’s take on love, but that Christians now seem to think this is also the standard of love. I hear girls say, “I just want to be loved!” Excuse me, but you are, girl! By a perfect and holy Man who walked this earth and died in your place! When really what they mean is they want to be “loved” physically by a man with his hands on them. I know; I’ve felt that way and it’s a natural desire, but also wicked trap to be enclosed in if you live in it. But the problem is that now even so-called “Christian music” has been laced with this concept of love: the shallow words sing of God’s love for us and how we love Him, but speaks nothing of sacrifice. It’s become an overwhelming display of “Jesus is my boyfriend” type words that sicken me in to my very core! These are words that if the word “Jesus” be taken out and replaced with another man’s name, it would now be a love song to someone I adore in a physical sense. Indeed this display of twisted affection has awakened me to find the true meaning of love: what it looks like, feels like, and means for a Christian to walk in love and to shower it on those around them.
Obviously the verses of the bible that come to mind are all of 1 Corinthians 13. My King James Version labels it “charity” , which is the standard for love in the Christian walk. Let’s look at the points it gives to what love is:
- Suffereth long
- Is kind
- Envieth not
- Vaunteth not itself
- Is not puffed up
- Doth not behave itself unseemly
- Seeketh not her own
- Is not easily provoked
- Thinketh no evil
- Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in truth
- Beareth all things
- Believeth all things
- Hopeth all things
- Endureth all things
- Never faileth
“And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.” 1 Corinthians 13:13
So now that your eyes have been opened to the impact Satan is having, what are you to do with it? Tell others, just hold onto it? You’re gonna have to decide that, but be warned that Satan wants God’s true love destroyed. He’s taking a lot of people down with him, and he’s far from done, so do not be deceived. Walk in love, true love, that God outlines for us in His Word.